Self Leadership


Self Leadership starts with honest self-assessment.of who you want to be


Self Leadership starts with honest self-assessment.of who you want to be


In my view Self-Leadership has to do with actively leading yourself to become who you want to be, where you want to go in your life..

This means at work, at home, at play,actively looking forwardand believing you can have more of what you value in life.


Do you show up in all areas of your life with the way you want to?

Understanding ways to generate energy and clarity to do what is needed to not only support coworkers, family and friends, but to even be a role model.


In the previous writing I asked “What kind of self-management tools do you use to maintain your health?”

Since Self-Leadership is a more empowered and future oriented goal now I ask “What Self-Leadership ideas can you leverage to be better and stronger and more health in body and mind?”

Lean into your strengths!

I have gone through my Positive Psychology module you will have learned about your signature strengths and how to use those to address places where you struggle.

You will also have discovered areas that come up as lowest ranking strengths for you.


Look back at this material and see if some of your lower ranking strengths are in need of improvement by leveraging your strengths as you approach them, personal breakthroughs are possible.

This is a hallmark of the learnings in positive psychology along with developing an attitude of gratitude and learning to address areas that you can be effective rather than focussing on things beyond your control.


More important though I think is looking inward at yourself and acknowledging areas you would like to be different. Do you get enough rest, exercise, positive mental space and relational connection?

How can you make improvements?


Here within Self-Leadership we are looking to do more than just show up and do what is required of us to maintain our health, mental well-being and our relationships.

We are here to level up!


Body, mind and relationships

Thinking of our health in a biopsychosocial model is often helpful.

What I mean by this is that our Body is our Biology our Mind is our Psychology and our relationships are our Social well being. A bit of work in any of these areas may well effect the other areas as they are, of course, intertwined.


Body.

Getting enough sleep, eating well and getting some exercise is common good advice.

Recognize that taking breaks regularly is good for you and actually increases productivity.

Check in with your healthcare provider if you have concerns about your health, mental or physical.


In my view Self-Leadership in this area looks like believing you can have better health in this area. It can be difficult for us to imagine breaking through barriers that have held us back in the past. Science has shown us that the same areas in the brain light up when we vividly imagine things as when we do them.

There is substantial writing on the value of stoking your belief in yourself in order to succeed. This doesn’t mean that you just have to imagine winning a swimming title and skip the workouts in the pool. It means that focusing on what you want is going to help you get there. Being realistic and working a plan is still needed. You can be sure that negative self talk won’t help.


Mind

I’m going to return here to some of my favourite lessons learned through my studies.

Ask yourself Empowering Questions!

Write them down or say them out loud to make them more real to the brain.

  • What would it be like for me to be more successful in my job?

  • What kind of skill would I like to develop for my own personal enjoyment?

  • How will I become a better at ____________?

As you ask yourself Empowering Questions your mind will dutifully begin to look for answers for you. A book or video may come to your attention.

You may notice a person with a skill set you would like to develop and recognize that this is a learnable thing that you can pursue.

Hypnosis for self empowerment is a really easy way to get a head start on this.


Relationships

Connecting with people in meaningful ways is part of being human.

This has been harder to do since the global pandemic restriction have been keeping us apart. Doing what we can to connect over zoom for a virtual coffee, on the phone or safely in person has a positive impact on our health and brings our lives meaning.


Again I’m going with Empowering Questions here.

Ask yourself,

  • How can I feel better about connecting with people?

  • How can I learn to feel confident approaching strangers or people that I would like to work with?

  • How can I learn to find my most confident, outgoing state and bring it when I need it?


This is going to be a big deal as things begin to open up after Covid restrictions lift.

Personal social interactions are responsible for relationship building that lead to friendships and also to sales.

This is an NLP process called the Circle of Excelence.
Since my main focus here is on personal mental well-being,

I want you to feel what it is like to believe in yourself.

I will offer a Process for stepping into Empoerment.

Self limiting beliefs can hold you back.

Leaning how to believe in yourself is key to moving forward.

Negative thoughts or a focus on potential threats or playing safe has been rewarded through evolution and is a normal way to deal with stress and worry

Looking within yourself for all of the feelings of power and confidence and steadiness etc can be brought to the surface for you to utilize.

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Imagine a Hula hoop sized space on the floor in front of you.

As you stand outside of it look down at it knowing that in a few moments you can step into it and take on some of the most powerful resources you have had.


  • Close your eyes and imagine a time when you felt strong. Now recall as best you can, (or just imagine you can recall) the things you saw, the things you heard and the things you felt then. Now imagine you take those things out of you and put them in the Hula hoop sized space on the floor.

  • Still with your eyes closed imagine a time you felt confident, that you could learn and grow, maybe a time you proved it to yourself. Again recall or imagine what you saw, heard and felt then. Now imagine you take those things out of you and put them in the Hula hoop sized space on the floor.

  • Still with your eyes closed imagine a time you felt Loved and secure. A time when you knew you had enough of everything you needed to enjoy life. Now, recall or imagine what you saw, heard and felt then. Now imagine you take those things out of you and put them in the Hula hoop sized space on the floor.

  • Still with your eyes closed imagine a version of yourself that has the resources that you would like, strong belief in themselves standing there with a smile and confident posture, And now you can open your eyes and step into that spot and take on all of those amazingly powerful internal resources and take a deep breath and feel great!

  • You can get what you want out of life and feel good doing it now!